Mar 30


Maybe it’s because i am a woman but i find it completely hard to understand why is it that men find the  hardest time expressing how they feel. It doesn’t take an intricate plan to let your wife/girlfriend/fiance/ole lady/jumpoff , whatever the hell it is that you have, how you feel. Do you really love your male ego THAT much that you would risk losing the one you claim you love because you feel “stupid” for telling her how you feel about her?

I believe that if you care for someone and you really care how they feel and what they think of you, you should out and openly express what it is that you are feeling. I find that a  lot of arguments can be prevented if men would just say what the hell it is they are thinking. You don’t have to tip toe around the bush.

If you want to spend time with her, SAY IT! If you don’t want her to leave you alone tonight, SAY IT! If you want her to wear her hair a certain, don’t be mean about it but……..SAY IT!

It is not that gotdamn hard to express yourself. I don’t know if they feel as though you are going to hurt them because ill be the first to tell you that it DOES make you vunerable but if you with someone you love and you  really believe they would never do anything to hurt you, you should be able to be vunerable with this person. No one likes that feeling of putting yourself out there on the line but if you never ever do it, you will NEVER get in a serious relationship. How in the hell can you be with a woman and she doesn’t even know what your thinking? Half the time she can’t even tell because you won’t let her know. She is NOT  a mind reader.

I know guys have the hardest time dealing with emotions but consider her feelings as well. How can she possibly get close to you, this is assuming that you in fact want that kind of closeness with her, if you never let her inside your head? Women don’t like that shit! That’s aggravating sitting there trying to figure out what’s wrong, why you acting like this, why you being like this, why you doing this , doing  that, and that’s all it takes is you TELLING HER how you feel . That’s it. Its not overcomplex and a lot of you may think that i am oversimplifying it and i am not. Just let her know how you feel and i PROMISE YOU your argument to peace ratio will drastically decrease. Probably by like, 60%.

That’s all arguments really are is 3 things. (they are in no particular order)

1. Lack of understanding

2. Miscommuncation

3.Not being honest and straightforward with what you are feeling

Just tell her how you feel and if you really believe she would never do anything to shit on you, i promise she will throughly appreciate you after its all said and done.

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  • Vanique Tolliver
    man are going to man but we will go through an experience of the good n bad 1
  • I don't usually have a problem telling a woman how I feel. It's about delivery, I would much prefer to show her how I feel. Women, say they want a man to be more open, but sometimes like Knowledge... pointed out, these guys are not favored. They do get cut fast... Emotional men can be overwhelming.

    I am cut a little different because I had a hand in raising a bunch of girls, when I was just a boy myself. I know what it is to be a man and I had to teach them to be women. It wasn't beneficial to me to shut off. While I may not be completely happy with how the women turned out, I think they will raise better girls. I see it already in how my cousin deals with her daughter.

    It's OK for men to be emotional sometime. The emotional cut off extends far beyond guy / girl issues. Many times men never tell their sons that they love them. My son knows, he will be able to say it to his son and I know he can deal with women, or in his case girls, very intelligently. Like he said, all girls are different and you have to treat them that way.

    That being said, I do have my shut off points. On the surface, I am the strong silent type... But I have learned when to say and / or do what need to be said or done. I try to be respond appropriately. If you are unsure about something, just ask... Even if I couldn't tell you, right then and there, my eyes will not lie.
  • LOL I really get your frustration about the opposite sex. The thing is that men and women are in fact different. I think it may be how we raise our men children to be tough and masculine and not show emotion because that's a sign of weakness. That carries on in their relationships with women who are emotional and we are taught that it's ok to be that way. So our signals get crossed because we don't understand if they are feeling "this way" then why aren't they acting "this way" (which is how we would act). It's not like that.

    Men are more silent and you have to look deeper into the situation and basically read between the lines. If they are spending time with you and only you, then that should tell you something... If they are distancing themselves, that should tell you something... If they allow you to be apart of something that is important to them, that should tell you something... It's crazy to us to have to look below the surface because most of us (woman) are pretty vocal about how we feel right off the bat, men don't have to guess about how we're feeling. But us with them, we have to pay more attention.

    Women are from Venus and Men are from Mars. I think we all should get Steve Harvey's new book, Act like a Lady and Think like a man. Hey why not? Might give us some insight! In fact, I think I'm stopping at Barnes and Noble on the way home!
  • If they are spending time with you and only you, then that should tell you something... If they are distancing themselves, that should tell you something... If they allow you to be apart of something that is important to them, that should tell you something...

    VERY true. We're just not built/raised that way, to be telling you exactly what's on our minds a lot. Not about important stuff at least. Counter-intuitive as it may be.

    And just to put this out there, there are plenty men who speak their emotions TOO MUCH, I have female friends who've talked to guys like this. They couldn't deal with not being "the woman" ie the most emotional person in the relationship, and these guys got cut fast
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