Topic of the Day |

Dec 5

Wow I haven’t done one of these in so long but i just had a mind to do it today.

I am in a 3 year relationship and i plan on marrying this man. We don’t live together at all because we are not married. I feel that is something for a married people because the bottom line is if yall just in a “bf/gf” type relationship and yall living together, that spells trouble.

Let me explain.

Let’s say that you guys have been dating for a year right and you guys decide that you want to move in together. Well you have your own place and he has his. You come to the conclusion that you are going to give up your apartment, he does vice versa, and you guys get a place together. Lets say everything is all fine and dandy the first year yall live together. But then comes that 3 year mark and yall start noticing stuff about each other that really bugs the other one. What now? What if he/she does you something so bad that you can’t stand living with this person anymore, you want to break up, you just want out.

Now at this point you have to restablish yourself all over again. You have to get a new apartment, new furniture, find somewhere else to live and all that good stuff and you guys just part ways.

I don’t want to live like that. What Beyonce said? “If you liked it, then you shoulda put a ring on it.”

Hell, if you live in a certain states, after awhile you not gonna have to put a ring on it, the state is gonna do it for you. It’s called common-law marriage. Google it.

I am not going to uproot my life so that you can be comfortable and then we end up breaking up?! Hell no! My life don’t operate like that and it never will. Call me old fashion, but i will not live with a guy and we splittin the bills and we not married! You just not gonna up and walk away from this when you damn feel like it. NO SIR! It ain’t gonna happen ,cap’n.

I mean I could give you a key to my place but ain’t none of the moving in BS. You fine over there and i am fine over here.

Nah if yall disagree, hey, that’s fine. That’s your opinion just like this is mine. But I am just calling it like i am seeing it.

So the question would be: Do you agree with the cohabitating before marriage? If so, why? What are the pros and cons that you see?